I’m turning 35 in about 24 hours – momentus stuff. Birthday plug aside, a close friend has offered to take me out for dinner and to see the new movie Hysteria about the history of the first vibrator. How fitting???
Thus, it’s got me thinking about toys, how they have evolved and what they mean to both men and women. Historically, there have been implements and toys around for more than a thousand years with early records of the Greeks (horny pervs they were) depicting women using an ‘oblisbos’ whilst their men were absent at war. Throughout millenia it seems human have wanted to incorporate objects to intensify longing and to satiate the senses. We have penis extenders mentioned (and pictured below, no it’s not a wine stopper) in the illustrious Karma Sutra and Cock rings used around 1200 AD during one of China’s dynastic eras.
Every age thinks they invent sex, that we add something more ethereal or raunchy to it. I love the fact that despite malnourishment, war, disease and what we think of as far more conservative times humans can’t seem to stop the urge to make sex more interesting!! Sure religions come and go and on the whole make sex an evil kinda ‘you shant masturbate, orgasm or even lust’ but it’s still there, that stagnant cesspool of desire. Fun aint’ it?
Sure, the digital age has made things more visual and in some ways more disturbing and less of a spiritual experience. I mean, you can have all kinds of sex on tap viewed on the screen without so much as interacting with another human being. Whether this is detrimental or enhances more fluid sexual behaviours is debatable and further studies in psychology and societal norms will show the impact. Hell, i’d suggest the advent of lifelike sex dolls will only get more freaky over the years, what next?? Robot mouths that blow your appendage and serve you a cool beverage afterwards. A dildo that makes chocolate fondue at the same time, hell i’d line up for that new invention. Ahem.
My personal history with sex toys is evolving, the first major sexual interaction i ever had was with a toy and not a young man. I was woeful at flirting and hormones kicked in at eighteen that i managed to get a very plain dildo that i fucked in bed, in the shower on the couch sneakily when nobody else was at home. I had not even had my first kiss but i’d felt that longing to be filled for a looong time. I was amazed it wasn’t painful and rather enjoyable to vary the strokes and depth, learning the curves of my own body. By the time i had my first lover a few years later i can say i wasn’t overly nervous about sex or losing my virginity, i’d had enough toy experience that i was fine.
Since early history of Gigi i’ve grown to love smaller clit vibes rather than dildos due to the sheer power and range of options they give. My favourite is a We vibe Tango… god bless you. Best $150 ever spent, it looks like a small purple lipstick and is rechargeable by a little electrical recharge. It looks small but packs a mean punch. I’ve also been able to have orgasms whilst laying on my back (instead of face down) so yay for me. I still enjoy the traditional dildo but find that works best with a man that loves to use it on you rather than solo.
Men have a love/hate thing going on with sexual aids do you not?? I’ve had some absolutely relish amping them up and pushing me to my limit whilst others get hostile at the mere mention their penis isn’t the all conquering love god they think it should be. I’ve always thought its an extension of your mind and creativity more than anything else. A good lover will use what’s available to make things more spontaneous, to change it up and to add to the intimacy. Nothing beats the touch of a lover’s hands caressing you, or the embrace after an orgasm to have that closeness. It’s just that same hand can drive a toy into your nether regions over and over in ways your own probably can’t do… and that’s a awesome thing to share.
A few days ago i saw a new device for women that apparently sends electric shocks via an metal plate on one side, straight through to your g-spot for heightened orgasms. The thing fucking hurt my fingers… let alone what it would do to my vagina! Jury is out on that one for me. And what’s up with all the animal shapes on toys, um toy makers please stop with the bears and rabbits and cute critters.
So readers, what’s your favourite toy(s) and what would you like to try sometime ? Rope, strap -ons, hitachi??? Perfect time to share xx